When You Get Intimidated By The Success Of Others.
“You don’t have a mate”, “Everyone has their pace”, “You are not in a competition with anyone”. I have heard these phrases a thousand times, I bet you have too. We may or may not agree with them but it’s funny the minimal imprint it leaves in our minds when we do.
Let’s be realistic, competitiveness is a natural human trait, no one is to blame for that. In fact psychologists say that it is an inevitable consequence of the psychoanalytic view of human drive and is a natural state of being, so whether we like it or not, we are constantly competing. Sigmund Freud even said humans are born screaming for attention and full of organic drives for fulfillment in different areas. By the way, a little digression, I was thinking the other day about how much effect it would have on life if babies were born laughing instead of crying. Think about it.
Back to the subject matter, because of our competitiveness, we strive to be better persons, little wonder Charles Darwin’s survival of the fittest theory. Whether they are better or not, some are more successful than others at least by human standards. Because of that competitive trait, there are two things the success of others does to you; it either motivates you or intimidate you. The former is the reason we live in a developed world with new ideas everyday, the latter is like a slippery slope, you get intimidated, self doubt and envy sets in and ultimately you become a liability.
Today’s world makes it even more difficult not to be initimidated. Five minutes on social media and you see how well people are doing or seemingly so and then you start questioning yourself. A friend of mine said, “the success of others makes me want to level up”.
The good thing is that you can choose your path. First of all, intimidation or self doubt reduces your chances of being successful. How? You allow the voice of your insecurities prevent you from moving forward and your fear of failure is fueled. How many times have you refrained from doing something because you bugged yourself with the thought of failing or not making as much success as the other person. There you have it. Do a self assessment and find out what is really stopping you, my best bet is the intimidation from a highly competitive world. If it is, here are a few tips;
1- Stop the negative self comparism: I might not wholely agree with the no competition part, but I do agree that we all have our pace and timelines. Negatively comparing yourself will only fuel your insecurities and reduce your chances of doing better.
2- Define Success: you have to define what success means to you, because surely, it’s relative. It’s money to some, it’s impact to others. When you clarify your intentions, everything becomes easier and you have a sense of direction.
3- Shut out negativity: Negative thoughts and insecurities will always come up but it’s your job to shut them out since it’s not helping anyway.
4- Take that step : its important to take the first step, it’s better to take it and fail than not taking it at all. It could be a project, a competition, a brand, whatever it is, take the first step and keep moving.
5- Genuinely celebrate the success of others: this is something we have to consciously learn. Most of the time, it’s has a boomerang effect. Instead of hating, celebrate others, when you do, you give you unconscious mind permission to succeed. If you can, help others succeed too.
Theses tips have helped me and I hope they help you too. As usual the conversation continues in the comment section guys, if you’ve ever been in these phase share tip that helped you too. Don’t forget to like comment , share and sign up for more. Ciao!
Honestly, it would be nice if babies were born laughing. LoL. ?
Nice writeup Rejoice.
Thank you Alvy?
Quite trite!
Sometimes,one can even feel both motivated and intimated at the same time. The efffect is that the former gets defeated by the later–robbing it off its purpose!
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Yeeaaa, so true. Thanks Vicky?
Good one girl
Thanks Bebe?
Take that step. Great one. In hating, people ignore their own plans or see it as not worthwhile.
Good tip RJ.
Yes dearie, thank you?
Nice piece Riji
Thanks Michael ?
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This is really nice dear
Thanks Prudence?
Rejoice this piece is absolutely captivating.
People at times do fail to appreciate the truism that every human is born with this trait that make him/her search for self fulfillment.
With such drive, you either become motivated or intimidated about peoples success. It is only when we appreciate this that we stop picking negative position about peoples success. We ought to celebrate them, envy them positively and then tap into their hard works.
I doubt whether there won’t be a higher productivity among human beings if this piece of yours is pushed to both their conscious and subconscious.
Nice piece I do commend once more.
Wow, thanks Dominic?
I really needed this. Thanks alot?
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Thank you Rejoice
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Stellar piece ?
Tanchuu?
Nice exposition. I must have to say that competition with the wrong mindset can lead to depression at times.its necessary that each person looks inward to understand what he or she is really made up and then measure up to the best of his ability. Others success stories should be a radar that should be made to attune to individual’s peculiarities and not a photo copy of those person’s lifestyle. I
So right Solomon!
Negative comparison also promotes inferiority complex and when this sets in even the realization of your own goals lowed.
Learning how to appreciate the success of other… Such a timely message.. Baby baby♥️ thanks alot.
Thanks boo?
Very well written
Thanks Lala?
Rejoice!!! ??❤️
This is a wonderful piece. I concur to all you’ve said so far….
Nice one dear❤️
Thanks MG?
Wow… This I really mind transforming. I thinn thinking pattern… “Be motivated by ithers’ success not intimidated”… Word!
Wow! This is really mind transforming. I think my thinking pattern about success just got better.
“Be motivated by the success of others rather than intimidated”
Wow! Word
Wow! This is really mind transforming. I think my thinking pattern about success just got better.
“Be motivated by the success of others rather than intimidated”
Wow! Word
Yes, dear, go girl!
This is lovely. Kudos
Thank you Abraham??
Wow? more insight
Thank you?
thank you???
Thank you Rejoice
Youre welcome, thank you too❣️❣️
Great piece.
We either get inspired by the success of others or get intimidated. I personally believe we need to intentionality train ourselves to get motivated by the success of others not the other way round.
Exactly Ezekiel, thank you??
Exactly Ezekiel, thank you ??
This is beautiful, but remember ur greatest competitor remains u.
Yass!
Nice one Rejoice.
I have learnt that we should build ourselves to appreciate and get motivated of others.
*By others
Exactly Collins?