So I met this guy, he’s fiinnnee! Yes he’s that fine. He’s clean and he’s my spec physically (winks). He’s got the cash for sure. We got talking but something about him didn’t feel right. I’m sure ladies can attest to this. You meet a guy that looks and talks perfect but something about his perspective towards marriage or life doesn’t sit well with you. Something about his view about ladies is very wrong! Yeah so this guy told me he doesn’t believe there’s true love without money. I’m sure some of you still think so. Let me help you.
There will always be true love without money. It’s not money that makes a love true. It’s sacrifice!. However, when and if the love is true, the both parties should work on ways to make money and spice up the relationship or marriage. Money can’t buy true love but money helps sustain a true love relationship. Most of the rich people do not have true love. Most of them don’t stay married. So they have the money yet can’t buy them genuine love. Back to my story…
So when we said that, I quickly disagreed and shared my opinion. He said there’s no way he can believe in true love without money. He has experiences from his end that made him believe that. He has been in relationships that girls didn’t stay and didn’t care once there’s no money coming from him. So in as much as he’s fine and all that, his perspective towards relationship is wrong for me and I definitely can’t enter a relationship with that kind of guy. If you have all the money in the world and you are not willing to sacrifice your time and attention for me then you are not worth my love.
So I’m still amazed at how we are more interested in the visible (money and what it can buy) than the invisible. A guy walks up to a lady and the first thing that comes to her head is, “I hope this guy has money sha, what kind of phone is he using, if he has a car e no go bad oh.” When a guy sees a lady, what comes to his head is if she’s fine and has a sexy body together with what she’s wearing.
Please don’t get me wrong, I love good looking guys surely! Who doesn’t? All those things are good and necessary but not expedient. 98% of the times it’s those things we can’t see that is really the problem. The visible is not all there is. Someone can have a fine face with a polluted mindset. I’m sure you’ve seen well dressed people with bad character. A rich guy that lacks respect for ladies.
I’m personally obsessed with the invisible; the mind, heart, character, Fruit of the Spirit (Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, goodness and self control). These for me is what I look out for whenever I interact with people. I think we should all look out for these things instead of the things we can see.
DON’T FORGET; spend time investing in yourself. Build your invisibles; character and mind. If it’s bad it will always show no matter how fine you are dressed! It’s of great value! Don’t think it doesn’t count. It matters a great deal! Build your character now you are young and most importantly don’t be obsessed with the visible. It’s never permanent! I hope this made sense. God bless you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
My name is Nwegbo Ifesinachi Crystal. A student of University of Nigeria, Nsukka studying Plant Science and Biotechnology. 200lvl. I believe strongly in self discovery first, then self development. You can’t develop something you’ve not discovered. So discover who you are first (which we never really finish discovering ourselves), then keep developing anything you discover consistently! I have a blog that may help you a great deal — www.theyouthbeing.org